Sex, Money & Communication

12-16pm

Marriage: Mike & I have been practising it for almost 27 years. “Practice makes perfect” they say, but when you look at top golfers and tennis players and other sportsmen and women, it seems  that although they play brilliantly most of the time, there are bumps in the road. And so it is with marriage.  In December 1998, I remember talking to a young single guy on an internet chat site about his upcoming wedding. His name was Fred and he was crazy nervous. Somehow, even at that young age of marriage (Mike & I had been married a dozen years), I figured that there were three issues that have the potential to wreck a marriage if not honestly dealt with.

Sex, Communication and Money. I asked Fred about these three and how they featured in his relationship. He immediately said communication was the weak point. One other vital component of their relationship was also missing. This couple did not have any faith, so didn’t have the inclination to put God first. The reason, I believe, why so many Christian marriages are ending today is the failure of both husband and wife to submit to one another our of reverence to Christ. Put Him first, put the other next and seek to serve one another. Let pride take a back seat. If you are both striving to serve one another, married life turns out to be pretty marvellous. It’s a joint effort though. Both working towards making the other happy. Both striving to please the other. Both talking about how they are feeling. Both striving towards the same financial goals. Both speaking frankly about sex. Both running to God when things go wrong. Both apologising. Both repenting. Both forgiving.

Last night when I got home after a full and busy day, Mike had run a bath for me. I fell asleep before 8pm, waking up just before 11-30pm. Mike said, “I’m starving!” Poor guy. I had eaten a hearty breakfast and lunch and he had been expecting us to go out for dinner. I was so tired, it wasn’t going to happen. He had soup for dinner. When he said he was starving, I felt so bad for him! So I hopped out of bed, pulled on some jeans and jumped in my car….

Lol! Mike’s appreciation knew no bounds.  It was a pleasure for me! The number of times he has gone off in the dead of night to find me something I feel like,  cannot be counted on one hand. 🙂

Today, this was served to me…breakfast in bed…

Marriage is a service -orientated industry!

As for Fred, our conversation moved from marriage to faith and that night, for the first time in his life, he understood the message of the gospel and he came to faith in Christ.

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

I never kept up with Fred, but I’ve never forgotten him.

I’m loving cold, wet weather in Cape Town. Yay! At last the rains have arrived.

A snuggle-up-in-bed-and-read-a-book kind of day.

God bless you loads!

In His Grip,

Helga xx 🙂