Yesterday I had some me time. Since Mike retired almost a year ago, I’ve had a lot less time on my own. It’s been wonderful having Mike home. We just gel so well. We have a great little routine going.
One thing that has happened that we needed to talk about was his golf at Simon’s Town. I love going to new places, so golf anywhere else in the city is great, but I am a bit over caddying with him at Simon’s Town. When he plays there, it usually is with 2 or 3 other guys. I soon sensed that the other golfers don’t really like a wife tagging along. It may cramp their style. It really is a ‘guy’ thing and I have had others look at me with incredulity that I would impose my presence in the sacred space of their time.
My presence has served its purpose. Mike and I went to Simon’s Town when he knew no one and didn’t know the course either. We were a bit of a spectacle. Us arriving with me caddying and him playing. Now he knows the people and is comfortable with the course. So if I want to go, I can, but Mike can go alone when I don’t want to join him.
Yesterday went alone.
As I saw him out, I returned to bed via the kitchen, where I made myself a cappuccino. This represented some me time.
Yip it was about 7-10am!
For the rest of the day, I got to the bank and got my online banking going, did some shopping and make bolognaise sauce…
Then David arrived to watch a bit of the tennis, Mike came home after mixed golfing success and a quiet afternoon was enjoyed.
Apart from coming to terms with each other within a marriage relationship, I believe each of us have to come to terms with ourselves. It’s a case of if you are not happily single, it may be difficult to be happily married. I heard from one of my teachers who is now teaching in Abu Dhabi and hating it (he’d only been there a month) – he wrote to ask if he could get a job in Kuwait! I told him if he wasn’t happy in Abu Dhabi, he wouldn’t be happy in Kuwait. I have teachers in Kuwait asking me all the time to find them jobs somewhere else. You have to be happy in South Africa to be happy anywhere else. Happiness is not always determined by your location. Moving out of the country may be the answer for some, but there are guaranteed to be different problems in the area to which you move.
Nothing is guaranteed this side of eternity. There is nothing new under the sun. Learn to be happy right now. Otherwise, you’ll run out of time!
That’s absolutely what I have learned recently.
1 Timothy 6:6
But godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment.
One of the things that does make me feel a little extra happiness is having something to look forward to. Mike and I have booked a trip for later on in 2017 and it has been exciting thinking about it, researching places and looking forward to to. Find yourself something to look forward to, no matter how little it is.
#181 of my 1000 thanks is enjoying watching tennis. Roger Federer is playing Rafael Nadal. What an epic match.
These are the days!
Keep the smile going.
God bless you!
In His Grip,
Helga xx 🙂