“Your Desire Will Be For Your Husband”

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What I am about to say is what I think most women want. I am sure there are some ladies, who don’t fit into this mold, but most, I can imagine,  do. I’m thinking of how women are made – what’s in their DNA; how they were created….it’s the things that they cannot change. Genesis 3:16 says, “Your desire will be for your husband”. I’m addressing men! Women already know this.

1. Their desire to marry. Women want commitment. When Eve was made, she had it right there. Adam needed someone. He received Eve. They were committed to each other. Long term dating or living together will not completely fulfill a woman’s needs. She wants a greater commitment than that. She wants to know that you love her enough to go the whole way….to marry her.

2. Women have an inbuilt longing to have children. They cannot help it. They are made like that. The reason God made man and wife was to reproduce and populate the world. The deep desire that awakens in a woman to have a baby – to be OH so broody is written in her genes. She cannot control it. It’s like breathing air and getting hungry. Even though she may not talk about it, it is there. She wants a baby!

3. I believe when God proclaimed, “Your desire will be for your husband”, it included the deep desire to be romanced and wooed. Most women long for romance. They want to be pursued. Many of them, in order to be fulfilled need to receive tokens of love and appreciation. And, this is the scary part for guys: her longing is not momentary or easily satisfied. It needs to happen on an ongoing basis….regularly! They need to continually be fed a diet of little indications that you love and care about them. They know you work hard and it is for the family, but the importance of showing a unique &  individual token of your love for her will win you far higher levels of adoration, admiration and appreciation than you ever know. The power to illicit those feelings in the woman in your life, believe it or not, lies with you. Find out her love language and speak it!

4. Women want intimacy. I’m aware that those reading this will be all the way along life’s spectrum. They may interpret ‘intimacy’ as sex, as physical touch, as sitting hand in hand alone in the evening or as individual attention. All of that can be intimacy. Women want to be close to their men. They want to be touched, non- sexually. They want sex. They want to sit hand in hand. They want individual attention. Life changes from stage to stage. When raising 4 children and being touched all day, they may not want your paws on them at the end of the day. The intimacy that scenario calls for is help to put the children to bed; sitting her down in a comfortable spot, making her a cup of tea and letting her chill! The bond that comes with that little action is a non-physical intimacy that shouts out that you understand her and are there for her.  She desires you in so many ways. Try and discover them.

One of the keys to getting this right in marriage is communication. We both have needs. Talking about these things and unpacking  your desires and dreams gets you on the same page!

I’ve been sitting on my balcony while these ideas filtered through my mind and out through my fingers onto my screen. The idea that my mind is working on such a hot day is surprising. This is my view…

There is a slight breeze which occasionally soothes my sizzling skin. The cat has a more effective solution…she hangs her legs over the edge of the balcony….

(A picture of Truffles, specially for Miranda!) One of hottest days of the year during the hottest month of the year. This is February in Cape Town!  I took advantage of it and washed the lounge curtains! 🙂

It could be worse….see Vredendal…this is from the official Derek van Dam official fan page (he’s the weather guy) – thanks Keith and Tanya…

Aaah, it’s a lazy day!

God bless you loads!

In His Grip,

Helga xx 🙂

Gratitude/Happiness Pic…this morning when I walked out on the balcony, I was struck by the amazing colours and the full moon. The Lord commands life to the morning and causes the dawn to know its place (Job 38:12)