Single Ladies! Look For This Quality In Your Man…

11-30am

Donkey’s years ago, when Mike & I just started dating, an interesting scenario played itself out. I had a list of attributes that I wanted in my future husband. One of them was humility. It was one of the first things I recognised in Mike. He was humble. He lived humbly. He spoke humbly. He acted with humility. I think the reason I was most attracted to this characteristic was because Christ was humble. When you are humble, you are Christ-like. For me, humility was more important than financial wealth. Humility is Christian wealth.

After I started dating Mike, we were invited to lunch with a friend of his. She was single and closer to Mike in age. A lovely person, talented and pretty, I wondered why Mike had never dated her. I felt secure in my relationship with him and never felt threatened by this woman, but I was curious as to why they had never got together. She was available. Certainly, this lady seemed a little more attracted to Mike now that someone else was interested in him!

Mike said none of the girls in his circle wanted to date him because he didn’t have anything to offer them in regard to a home and big salary. He lived simply, in a small room, at the YMCA, living off a meagre salary, running this Christian ministry, driving their car. His biggest possessions were an iron and a guitar.

As I looked back at the photos of the “Y” at the time, I was struck Mike appearing in none of them. He was always taking the pics. He painted every room, re-wired the kitchen, laid hundreds of square metres of carpet tile, fixed broken washing machines, serviced the vehicle, did the grocery shopping and, late at night, when the party-going holiday makers arrived home, had long theological discussions. All in a day’s work! He was a brilliant asset to the organisation. I was ready to fit in wherever God took us.

As it turned out, 6 months after we married, the Lord opened a door for Mike to go back into Land Surveying. We moved to Paarl for 2 and a half years before moving back to Cape Town and settling in Sun Valley.

Mike has remained humble. He may have grown professionally and certainly his bank balance has increased since the YMCA days, but his heart of compassion, his speed in apologising, his lack of greed, high level of integrity and  his generosity, have all been underscored by a humility of spirit.

For me it is still so very attractive. 🙂

So, single ladies, look for a humble man. When you marry someone for whom humility is important, you can be sure you will see more of 1 Corinthians 13 in your marriage.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

These are great treasures that money cannot buy!

Keep the smile going (and stay humble!)

God bless you!

In His Grip,

Helga xx 🙂