Category Archives: Marriage

Bickering Over The Cat

Whenever we go away, Truffles, the cat, gets jittery and on our return she is very clingy and attention seeking, especially towards me. She will be on the bed every night, kneading my stomach or if I’m asleep on my … Continue reading

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We All Need Second Chances

Mike & I were on our way to the beach. Suddenly, very quickly, and unpleasantly, the conversation turned negative and we both spewed a whole lot of horrible words. It was ugly. Very. Ugly. I was ticked off. So was … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Get Wise About Spending

Well known financial guru Suze Orman said: “ In my years of talking to thousands of people who’ve had no money, some money, and heaps of money, I’ve found that it doesn’t create or sustain happiness. That’s not to say … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Don’t Start A Relationship With The Opposite Sex!

It was Monday, early in August 1998. The day began no different to others that had gone before. Our normal morning routine unfolded with me taking the children to school. Today though would be a first for them. David who … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Flirtation & Tenderness

Yesterday Mike arrived home from work and announced we were going to see a plot of land – not for us to buy – but it was a work related land inspection. He handed me a piece of paper with … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Surprise! Surprise!

 We are a family of surprises. I love surprises. My family started giving surprises when Stacey and David were 12 & 9. We decided to surprise them with a weekend away. Mike & I had been away for a weekend … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Leave The Weight Alone

I heard a story once of a woman who had been married for many years. Dinner party after dinner party she endured her husband’s referral of her as “heffalump” in criticism of her weight. She was embarrassed every time, but … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Be Nice to Live With

We still call it the tantrum spoon. It’s a large slotted serving spoon with half a yellow handle. The fact that it is only half a yellow handle bears testimony to the fact that late one sunny afternoon I really … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Keep Your Marriage in Focus

Life can get very crowded. The seasons of life change regularly. We go from young singles, to young newlyweds. The honeymoon is soon over and we get into the work of married life. The first year may be tough with … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Enhance Your Spouse’s Self-Esteem

Treat your spouse in a way that enhances his/her self esteem. Dr. Phil McGraw once said this on his TV show. I was struck by it, not because I had never thought of it before, but rather because it epitomizes … Continue reading

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Overlooking Flaws

This is a rare ‘middle of the night’ blog. It’s been a hot night in Cape Town and with the down duvet still on our bed, I was overheating so threw it off, only to be terrorized by the irritating … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Take Care Of Your Spiritual Needs

If you aim at having a happy marriage and balance is to be part of it, then taking care of your spiritual needs is also an essential ingredient. When Mike & I got married we already shared the same spiritual … Continue reading

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My Longest Surviving Electrical Appliance

I don’t know if I can write 400 words about a hairdryer and I’m not quite sure where this is going anyway, but I thought I’d mark the day. My hair dryer is more than 30 years old. It’s never … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Spend Time Together

It was late Saturday afternoon and I was at the gym. On the treadmill next to mine was a young good-looking 20 something year old guy. He was in the middle of a good run – in full flight in … Continue reading

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Making Marriage Work – Get The Balance Right

The year 2004 was one of the worst of my life. In January, my mom passed away after a long illness. Extended working hours, changes in my job and illness in my family all contributed to making the year one … Continue reading

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